Life Really Doesn't Have to Be So Complicated

Why does everyone say life is so complicated...?

I understand this is a question that can be answered differently by every separate person. Every heart and every mind work together, or occasionally separately, to formulate some answer to that question. All I hear all the time is, "Life isn't easy; life is complicated." What I don't understand is why those two phrases are always synonymous with each other.

Yes. Life isn't easy. Life is very strenuous and demanding, but that needn't make it complicated.

Maybe my fatal flaw is one of oversimplification. In my eyes people create many of the unnecessary complications they continually complain about in their lives.

Romance is probably the biggest area of difficulties that could easily be avoided. People spend all this time trying to look nice to attract a partner - UNNECESSARY! The person you end up with will be loving you for who you are and what you look like without getting ready. There's one complication people can just knock off their lists. Then, people find someone and complain about how difficult their relationship is.

News Flash: It doesn't have to be.

That's the main area of romantic life that bothers me. In my mind, things can be boiled down completely to their bare minimum. In other words, "it is what it is." There isn't anything more to it if you don't want there to be. Everyone could be happy if both partners could just grasp this concept.

If you love somone just be loyal and faithful. I know I make it seem so easy and you're probably thinking, "but Sammi, it just isn't that simple." I know you probably don't think it is, but what I'm getting at is the fact that it could be. If you love someone it's simple and even enjoyable to do anything to keep them happy. Even simpler: anything NOT to upset them. Don't lie to them. Don't cheat on them. Don't pick fights about miniscule issues. Relax and calm the fuck down.

Now in many cases people have done this and they haven't seen decent results. That's because their partner doesn't have the same outlook. If two people could just coexist without drama or lies or other stupid and unnecessary complications, imagine how good life would be - how happy people would be.

Now, I know stress plays a large role in all of this. It takes much practice and discipline to control one's emotions. But hey: I've done it. If I can do it I just don't see why other people can't. It's not just being the bigger person but learning tolerance.

Everyone says trust is the biggest and most important aspect in a relationship and I agree - to an extent. I think it's tied with tolerance. You can trust each other all you want but there are some quirks your partner will undoubtedly have that you will just have to get used to. Sometimes they are going to be things that upset you but if you can't look past the little things how will you ever make it by. Sometime love isn't enough - but love can push you to gain the emotional control, knowledge, tolerance - whatever it may be - that is enough.

I know my train of thought was kind of all over the place and I apologize for that. I just hope that my message was clear. I know life isn't easy, but people make the parts that should be easy...well...complicated. Why make life more difficult? Relationships are supposed to be the highlight. They are supposed to be the part of life that makes all the hard work worth it. People go out to work all day and the ones that are the happiest are the ones that come home to a loving relationship.

I just don't see why things can't be more simple. Maybe what I think is the best solution will ultimately cause problems - how am I to know?

For me it just seems...just so trivial to aggravate things that need not be aggravated...

Calm down, kick back, and let it go. Life's too short.